I can't listen well to any prompt from outside myself unless I am on a determined journey toward knowing myself better. So having people in my life who are committed to putting a metaphorical mirror in front of me whenever I need it is very important to me. I am also very good at problem-solving, but that isn't the same as listening. Just before Covid, I spent some time as an oral history interviewer, and I learned the importance of cultivating an attitude of attentive silence in order that the next question I ask can be the most fruitful one.